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Wednesday, January 29, 2014

SCAD, Interrupted (The one with some answers?!)

For the last two years and nine months, I haven't had any answers about why I suffered/survived a post-partum Spontaneous Coronary Artery Dissection (SCAD) and heart attack at the age of 28. No doctor could tell me why it happened or how it happened or if it would happen again. Some doctors listed off "associated" or "contributing" factors - maybe pregnancy or hormones or use of contraception. I shouldn't say "some" doctors - really, really smart doctors who are revered in their field & know alot about medicine and hearts and are good at what they do*.

So. Try to imagine my surprise (shock, disbelief) when a new doctor (who isn't even a cardiologist), who I've seen twice, manages to uncover not one but TWO abnormalities during a routine set of blood tests.  I won't go as far as to say that either abnormality  is a "causal" factor of my SCAD. But seriously - I've been poked and prodded and scanned and tested for every damn thing under the sun to no avail. I've been asked numerous times to admit to a drug habit (does a daily 5oz of wine count?) that would explain everything. This obviously makes sense because heart disease must be my fault. I must have done something to myself that caused my heart attack. That's the only way to explain it, right?

Wrong.

So, let me try to walk you through my own mini-medical breakthrough.
  • I test positive for Lupus Anticoagulant Antibodies. This pretty much means I am more prone to blood clots than the general population and this particular antibody attacks the lining of blood vessels. We'll never know if I developed this prior to my SCAD or in response to my SCAD. 
  •  I also have two janky copies of my Methylenetetrahydrofolate reductase - MTHFR - gene. First of all - that's the worst abbreviation EVER. MTHFR - really?? LOL. The takeaway here is that a MTHFR mutation can increase risk of heart attack and stroke.
To summarize - I have a double-whammy genetic pre-disposition to heart attack and an antibody that attacks the lining of blood vessels and encourages blood clots. 

To remind - During my SCAD, my Left Anterior Descending (LAD) Coronary Artery (aka The Widowmaker), dissected  (exposing the vessel lining) and a blood clot formed, causing a heart attack.

Does knowing more change anything? 

I'm not sure. There's a part of me that wishes heart disease was something I'd done to myself because maybe then, I wouldn't have to worry that I passed along a genetic crap pile to my sweet kid. But it's becoming increasingly clear that all of this really was out of my control. It is possible that I was doing everything right. But it doesn't matter what I did. Now, it only matters what I do - with my health, to my body and for others. 

American Heart Month starts this Saturday and Wear Red Day is Friday, February 7th. I hope you'll wear red to honor those in your lives living with or lost to heart disease. I have alot to be thankful for and will be in red from my lips to my toenails! 


"Most kind of stories
Save the best part for last
And most stories have a hero who finds
You make your past your past
 

It's a brand new day
The sun is shining
It's a brand new day
For the first time in such a long long time
I know, I'll be ok....." - Joshua Radin



*A quick note: 
As you know, I'm not a doctor or any kind of medical professional. What is written here is my interpretation of my own medical condition - please don't take it to be medical advice or guidance or anything other that me talking about my reality. If you have questions about your own health/medical condition, consult your own doctor or a healthcare professional

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Nine Lives (or The Places You Have Come to Fear the Most)

"Buried deep as you can dig inside yourself
And hidden in the public eye
Such a stellar monument to loneliness
Laced with brilliant smiles and shining eyes
Perfect make-up, but you're barely scraping by
But you're barely scraping by...


Well this is one time, well this is one time
That you can't fake it hard enough to please everyone
Or anyone at all...or anyone at all
And the grave that you refuse to leave
The refuge that you've built to flee,
The places that you've come to fear the most,
Is the place that you have come to fear the most." - Dashboard Confessional


 2012 Go Red Photo Shoot: Amy, Rachel, Rekisha, Lidia

Once upon a time, there were 10 of us. The reality of our heart disease and no-bullshit, scream-it- from-the-mountain-tops attitudes brought us together - our paths may never have crossed otherwise. We parroted the same message out into the world:

Heart disease is the number 1 killer of women
 Heart disease kills more people annually than all forms of cancer combined
 Heart disease kills 1 in 3 women
Wanna know what heart disease looks like? Look at me.

We share our stories over and over, in hopes they make a difference - we nag and annoy and repeat and surely, people get sick of listening. It becomes exhausting to share it and exhausting to live it and all you really want to do is let yourself be "normal", and be silent and blend in and leave it behind. 

And then, one of us died. It felt out of the blue and unexpected, but really.... really, it was just a matter of time. We'd been saying it over and over - heart disease kills 1 in 3 women. How could we really be surprised

The night that Rekisha died, I had to work late.  It was in the car on the way home that I learned of her passing. I tried so hard to stop the tears when I came in the door - but both boys knew something was wrong. Cameron, channeling me in his own little way, said "Shh, mama. It'll be okay. It hurts but it's not broken! Want me to kiss it?"

In my absence, my boys spent the evening building forts out of couch cushions. I concocted a steaming drink of almond milk, cocoa powder and peppermint schnapps and laid in a heap on the cushions. I watched her over and over again, hoping to get some perspective on the situation. Hoping that I could be fine thinking "It was her time" or "Her work was done." But it's not fine. Fuck fine. She was a mom and a wife and a daughter and a friend and a sister and so many things to so many other people. I've been through so many iterations of "what if" now that they all just blur together - what if she'd had better doctors? what if her heart disease had been discovered earlier? what if she'd been in a different city? Would the ending really be different?

So I can't get perspective. And it's not fine. And who knows what the right words are to honor her memory - I guess all you do from here is keep breathing and keep moving forward? And fight like hell so her death wasn't for nothing? 

I'll let you know how that goes.

 "I'm not afraid of death, but I resent it. I think its unfair and irritating. Every time I see something beautiful, I not only want to return to it, but it makes me want to see other beautiful things. I know I'm not going to get to all the places I want to go." - Viggo Mortenson

I'm not afraid of death, but I resent it. I think it's unfair and irritating. Every time I see something beautiful, I not only want to return to it, but it makes me want to see other beautiful things. I know I'm not going to get to all the places I want to go.

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